What to Talk About With a Girl

Topics or things to talk about with a girl is everywhere around us and in fact talking to a woman is not rocket science but it is not as easy as sending a rocket to space either.

Have you ever been in a situation where you are hanging out with a pretty girl and you don’t know how to take the conversation forward or even come up with interesting topics or things to talk about with the girl?

Of course you have! So have we all.

The question ‘what to talk about with a girl?’ does not have an easy answer.

For centuries men have wondered and while some have found answers and duly passed them along to younger men, most are still groping in the dark for topics to talk about with girls.

Cupid may have struck the arrow but it is up to the men to strike a conversation.

In today’s article we have a list of things to talk to girls about for all those self conscious and floundering men looking to pick up a date before prom night or Valentine’s Day.

So let’s get the boat rocking….

What to Talk About With a Girl Demystified

First and foremost one must be mindful of what to speak and when to speak, two very important points which can rarely be taught by another person.

Cut down on rude language and follow the points listed in this article and you can woo the woman of your choice with ease.

More important than what to talk about with girls is how to talk with girls.

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Until you have perfected how you speak, it does not matter what you speak.

The general rule of thumb is to be courteous and avoid unnecessary criticism.

The best way to talk with girls is to be a good listener.

It is extremely common for men to feel jittery before approaching a woman.

Men often scratch their heads and tear their hairs thinking about what to say when approaching a girl.

First and foremost, calm your nerves down and be confident of yourself.

Unless you are calm and confident, no amount of poetic words can save you.

Do not over think while approaching girls and do not tend to be someone you are not.

Most girls will see through your act in a minute or two.

Rather be just who you are and you will find that words are coming naturally to you and the conversation will flow naturally.

If you are approaching a stranger the first thing you should do is introduce yourself in a way that she remembers.

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Do not run up to her and just blurt out your name, as she will hardly remember.

A great way is to come up with an excuse to approach a girl.

For example if you are in school or college you can ask her for directions to the school cafeteria or playground.

You can also ask her what food is available in the canteen.

After you have been talking for a couple of minutes, introduce yourself casually. Be smart enough to ask her name if she doesn’t introduce herself.

Also try to find out which classes she is in so that you may catch up with her again.

After introductions are over comes the hard part.

How to continue the conversation you have started?

There are a lot of general things to talk about, especially with all the important issues happening globally.

However, you need to understand the girl first of all.

If at all she is interested in what you are interested in.

There are many ways to cleverly find out if the girl you are interested in is interested in you.

So here are a few topics to talk about with a girl.

Talk About Them

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Talk about them!

Yes, just them.

Girls like it when a boy is curious about them and wants to know their likes and dislikes.

One of the best ways to start a conversation is to identify her likes and talk about one of them.

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Think books and movies to begin with.

Try talking about a recent movie release that you have seen or want to see. If she is also interested in it then ask her out on a movie date.

Try and find out what genre of movie she likes. A person’s choice of movies speaks volumes about the person’s personality.

Talk to her about your favourite movies and actors. Your aim is to find a common ground to connect with the girl.

TV shows are very useful talking points seeing as it is we are hooked to most of them these days. Game of Thrones is a good place to start.

Ask her which house she supports in the show and which characters she identifies herself mostly with.

We generally identify with a character with who our ideologies and instincts match the most.

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By getting to know her favorite characters you will come to know about her.

Even if she is not interested in movies then you can always move on to many other interesting topics.

Speaking of interesting things, books are always a great conversation starter.

Ask her if she has any favorite then ask her why she likes it. Her answers will reveal her character.

Talk about her favorite characters from books and ask her why she likes the character. Tell her about your favorite book and character.

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It is a simple yet effective way to get to know each other.

If this method does not do the tricks then change the topic to comics.

You may be surprised to know that there are many female comic book nerds out there who are just as giddy as you are about Batman!

Search for common likes to connect better with her.

If you are not into books as much then hard luck!

Talk about Music

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For the most part, I think this is one of the most important things to about with a girl whether you like it or not.

You can also talk about music. Music speaks a universal language and whether you are nerdy or sporty, music is hard to live without.

Music has this uncanny ability to bring two completely different people together.

Start talking about music, what you like and what she likes.

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Try to know whether she likes modern music or if she is into classic songs of the bygone era.

I once met a girl and we hit it off instantly owing to our shared love and passion for Pink Floyd.

When it comes to music there are loads to talk about. Ask her if she plays any instrument.

If she does then you have an excuse to practice together or to learn from her.

Again, the choice of songs speaks a lot about a person’s character.

So talk about the songs she likes and try to understand what part of the lyrics she most identifies with.

Be careful not to talk about your likes only. Do not get carried away. The purpose is to get the girl to speak and reveal what she is like.

Once you get to know her taste you can make her a mixed tape as a gift the next time you meet.

A mix tape with her favorite songs is sure to grab her attention and she will love you for it.

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While it is best to avoid talking about personal matter or grave issues with a girl you just met or have known for a couple of days only, you can surely talk on such topics if you hit it off and seem to have an effective connection.

If the connection is strong from both sides then you can skip the small talk and jump right into the important stuff.

When there is a strong connection between two persons and they talk about the heavy mysteries of life, they often lose track of time.

It reveals not only the other person’s character but also your inner fears and strengths.

You can spend hours talking with her about life in general, where both of you are headed, and also the little things in life.

It all depends on the type of person you and the girl is.

Nonetheless, avoid talking about relationships and life in general at all cost when starting out.

Believe me; you will have a lot of time to talk about such things.

Talk About Travel

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Travel is a surprising topic on our list of things to talk about with a girl, or so one may presume.

But before you presume any further, let me inform you that many girls dream of travelling to foreign countries and exotic places.

Women of independent mind and free spirit are more often than not consumed by wanderlust.

It is your job to bring out the traveller in her and you two can be places around the world all the while chatting on a bench in Central Park.

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Tell her where you wish to visit one day and why you want to go there. If you have a common place of interest then you can plan on making a trip with her to that place.

Talk about all the things you can do there, sights you can see or historical places you can visit.

When it comes to traveling different people have different choices of places.

While some prefer the hustle and bustle of wide open beaches, others may prefer the high of hiking through snow covered lofty peaks.

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While some may find camping in the woods adventurous, others might want to visit someplace serene so that they can ponder over a cup of coffee or relax to their favorite music.

Traveling to India, especially during the numerous festivities that goes on in the country throughout the year, is a must on many women’s bucket list.

India is a diverse and vibrant country and a great place for two persons to connect on a deeper level.

Talk About Her Friends and Lifestyle

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Moving on, we come to some different topics to talk about with a girl. The first one is her friends.

While this may seem an ill advised step to you at first, it is an efficient way to get to know her better.

Shifting the conversation to her friends shows that you care about the girl and from where she comes.

More important than knowing a person’s character is to understand why she is like that.

Knowing the types of people she mostly spends her time with will give you a very good understanding about what she is all about.

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Moreover talking about her friend shows that you are friendly and you may even get invited to a party at one of her friend’s house.

Once familiarized with her friends, you can get to know her even better by talking to her friends about her.

If you have the best intentions at heart for her then her friends will walk the extra mile to help you seduce her.

Do not refrain from talking about your friends too as it may mean that you are hiding something.

From friends to family, there is no shortage of things to talk to a girl about.

Getting to know her family is arguably the best step you can take.

  • Who does she live with?
  • What do her parents do?
  • What other relatives she is close to?

These are just simple questions that you can ask a girl to know her better.

Ask her if she has any siblings. If she has a younger brother or sister, then try to befriend them.

Younger brothers are always useful as you two can bond over games and comics which in turn will bring you closer to her.

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Spend a few minutes getting to know her father and mother from her perspective will tell you a lot about her than you can imagine.

Also talk about your family too

Another of many things to talk about with girls is their childhood.

We all love reminiscing about our childhood and more so when we have an attentive ear ready to hear us out.

Our childhood forms an integral part of our growing up and becoming adults.

As much as there are happy moments from our younger days, we also have certain traumas that still haunt us today.

Making an effort to know the girl’s past and how it shaped her only shows that you care about her as a person too and not solely as a love interest.

Be polite and graceful when talking about childhood traumas or incidents.

Refrain from making a comment every now and then, and listen carefully.

You are under no prerogative to say something after every word she utters.

Listening patiently shows strength of character and openness towards a person’s views or opinions.

As we come to the end of our article, we hope you have learnt enough by now to go and approach the girl you like.

Even if you haven’t got the trick by now, here are a few more pointers to help you out.

Use your environment to start a conversation. Carefully notice the things going on around you and ask her opinion on them.

Debate on current affairs that have a global effect and soon enough you will either find common grounds or you will know this is not it.

When we think of what to talk about with a girl we often think about the everyday stuff like movies and songs.

Not every girl likes pink and you better find that out about the girl you want to talk to before you approach her.

I had a girlfriend once with whom I used to have raging debates on topics ranging from sports car to even the Champions League.

Sports are a good topic to talk about.

Find out if she plays any sport or particularly follows one.

While men are comfortable talking about sports, they should also know a little bit about fashion.

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Talking to a girl about the latest trends and your thoughts on them is a wonderful idea.

Something that I forgot to mention earlier is pets.

Girls like pets and if you have one then boy are you lucky! Don’t worry though if you haven’t as she might.

If she doesn’t then you can plan on buying one together.

Broadly speaking there are two types of people in this world- cat lovers and dog lovers.

When two dog lovers meet there are few things that can hold them off.

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Talk About Her Career or Life Goals

Finally talk about her career or life goals.

You should want to know what she aspires to become and how she is planning to do it.

Help her with ideas if you have any and encourage her to pursue her dreams.

If she is currently employed then find out where she is working, whether she is happy and if there are other avenues she is considering.

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We have listed a lot of topics to talk about with a girl but nothing beats common sense and the innate power of carrying a conversation forward on one’s shoulder.

Do not fret if you don’t have such prowess as it can be developed over time by practice.

The next time you want to talk to a girl do not hesitate to fail.

Embarrassment is a good teacher and you will learn from your failures.

If you do talk to her, make sure to be caring and honest.

Complement her on her skills and try to make her laugh. Engage her in a conversation worthy of her time.


Simon is extremely passionate about helping couples succeed in their relationships and strongly believes that healthy relationships breeds better society. So he created this blog to pursue his passion.

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